Reflections on Addison – Part 6

Potty Training.

Addison’s 3rd birthday came and went and much to my chagrin he was still in a diaper.  I somehow had it in my head that age 3 was the magic number plus the fact that preschool required that the child be potty trained.  We weren’t in preschool yet but it was looming.  First I tried pull ups; what a joke.  Just another way for Proctor and Gamble to sell more diapers to desperate parents.  Addison knew he could poop and pee in them so he treated it for what it was – a diaper.  I quickly gave up on the pull ups and made a big deal out of buying “big boy” underwear.  We had a long talk about what it means to wear them and how they are NOT a diaper and if he has a feeling of needing to pee we need to run to the bathroom, yada yada yada.  We would try them out for short periods of time to no avail.

I have some friends who want their children trained in a weekend.  They fill them up with water and juice and set a timer for every 30 minutes.  When the timer goes off it’s time to sit on the pot.  One bit of advice from this method is to stay off the carpet.  Those who have done this swear by it and more power to them but that wasn’t for us.  One method I tried for a while was to sit Addison on the potty until something came out of him.  We had a repertoire of potty books that sat on the back of the toilet.  He would sit there and I would sit across from him on the edge of the tub reading the books.  Hoping the message would sink in as something came out.

The Prince and the Potty was one of Addison’s favorite potty books.  Side note: while I was looking this book up on Amazon just now I saw this:

Oh. My. God.  The seat lifts up so his royal hiney can poop like a king.  Thank God I didn’t see this when we were going through this phase.  In my desperation to train the pee out of my child I would have thought this a necessary item.  Any why not?  It goes with the book!  Phew. I just realized I saved myself $68.50 + shipping.  I deserve a mani/pedi for that.

Anyhoo…back to toilet story time.  Addison enjoyed all the books but he didn’t seem to be getting it.  One day after quite a long reading session he said “mommy, my bottom hurts.”  Oh geez, I’m giving my kid hemorrhoids.  This had to stop.

I gave up.  Non of this was working and I was driving myself crazy.  I had resigned myself to the fact that my child would be graduating high school in a diaper.  May rolled around (7 months after he turned 3) when out of the blue one day he said he wanted to wear big boy underwear.  We had the talk again about what would happen if he pee-peed in them, put them on and he set off to play.  I thought, yeah right I better have a towel close by to clean up this impending mess.  Low and behold not long after he put on his new underwear I heard him run to the bathroom.  Could it be true?  Yes!  It was like a light switch had been flipped.  After that day there was no looking back.  Of course we had a few mishaps.  Once we were at a birthday party and he was too busy playing to stop and go.  I could see the look on his face as he was doing it and I rushed him to the bathroom.  I made a big deal of the mess he made and how we now had to toss those undies in the trash cuz’ I certainly wasn’t going to put soiled underwear in my purse.  I think I was a little harsh about it and the message was clear because he never had another #2 accident after that.

We used pull ups at night for quite a while until I realized that he was dry most of the night until he woke up.  Once he woke up he knew he had the pull up on and treated it for what it was – like I said before – a diaper.  One day I took a deep breath, made sure there was a protective cover on the mattress and put him to bed with out a pull up.  I would get him up early to use the bathroom.  We even would take him, sleep walking, to the bathroom in the middle of the night just to be sure.  There was plenty of bed wetting but I guess that is par for the course.

To be honest, I don’t have any advice when it comes to potty training.  This is just my story and I have no idea if it will repeat itself in a year or so when it’s Harry’s turn.  I’m not looking forward to it but at least I know what to expect.  At least I now know that my children will graduate high school in Hanes instead of Huggies.

Keep reading for the “conclusion” (if there ever really is a conclusion to this story) –> Reflections on Addison: Conclusion

8 Responses

  1. Leigh

    This story could have very nearly been written – Reflections on David – a potty training story. I have not braved up enough to force the night time underwear thing yet, but glad to see it worked, maybe I’ll give it a try.

  2. eliminationcommunication

    Pull-ups are on my most hated product list. They killed the cotton training pants market.

    It is fantastic that you had an easier time than some who have to contend with diaper attachment. A lot of patience needed there!

    If I could offer advice for your next, conventional potty training is best started between ages 12 and 18 months (I help potty train my younger siblings).

    The average age for potty training finishing was 2.5 30-40 years ago (gentle matter of fact approach too), now it is nearly four because parents are encouraged to start very late. The hardest age is between 2 and 3.

    You don’t have to do EC like I do, but earlier is better (smaller messes, more amiable attitude, less diaper clinging, no need for bribery) because it gives them plenty of time to do a daily routine as “no big deal we all do it” rather than a stressful bootcamp during the independence phase of an older child, kwim?

    I hope that helps your next potty adventure!

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  4. Sara

    Thanks for writing and sharing Reflections on Addison. My son also has SPD, we have been through some similar things and it’s always nice to know your not alone. I found the way you described the music therapy very helpful, we are doing this now and I often find it hard to explain to others. I will be taking pics of him with his head phones on now, as I to think it’s cute and would love to look back on it as a closed chapter in our lives.

    • Hugs, Kisses and Snot

      Thank you for reading our story! I hope you are finding Listening Therapy helpful and I hope you find comfort in Addison’s story. There is light at the end of the tunnel! He turns 7 this weekend and is such a joy to be with. I am blessed everyday by that boy 🙂

  5. Whitney

    Stephanie I had no idea. Thank you so much for sharing your story! Addison was always one of my favorites and I love him dearly!!! I hope everyone is doing well ! XO

  6. kyfirewife

    Just finished reading all of the Reflections on Addison. Interesting. Sometimes I think FireGirl might have SPD, or maybe is borderline. The tantrums she has are crazy violent, and come out of nowhere (no known trigger), she completely FREAKS at loud noises, and she canNOT stand to have anything on her hands. Even as an infant. She was also a late talker.

    I’m leaning toward borderline, whatever that means.

    Anyway, thanks for sharing your story!

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    • Hugs, Kisses and Snot

      That sounds so familiar. Check out the web sites and some of the books to see if you can find tips on how you both can cope and self sooth. Sometimes knowing that there is a problem is half the battle. Good luck

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