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Find Your Village

August 7, 2014

find your village

Recently I read a blogger who had the privilege of being on the Huff post.  She waxed poetic about a village of women who loved each other, depended on one anotherother, helped each other in every family rearing occasion.  She lamented the loss of this intimate village that she has never had.

I get it, I really do.  The idea of raising your children with out the distractions of electronics, soccer tournaments and PTA meetings with the help of your best friends is enticing.  However, the life she speaks of is a romanticized version of Little House on the Prairie or a time in history when families had to depend on each other for their very survival.  I hear of modern day homesteaders and envision myself in a simple life of chickens clucking and scratching in the yard, up to my elbows in bread flour and my smallest is strapped to my back.  In this scenario my hair is long and red and curly, my husband is muscular and sexy with an Irish brogue and risks life and limb to stake claim to land to show me he loves me.  Oh wait, that was Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise in Far and Away.  Sounds dreamy, but the reality of this by-gone era is that more than one of your children would have died in infancy and you may have lost your muscular, Irish-lover husband to a rattle snake bite.  At 38 you would look like you are 68 because life was friggin hard.  Rising before the sun, working all day, starting another meal just as the previous one was cleared away.  Let’s not even talk about laundry.  I shudder at the thought. 

The only place the Huff Post blogger could find her dream lifestyle today would be to join and Amish community or a hippy commune.  My guess is that 99.99% of us would give up after a week.

But what about that elusive village of women we dream of?  The one where you can laugh and cry with your girlfriends?  The one where they get you and love you even with your faults and quirks?  It’s out there; it just takes work to find it.  When I was a new mother I was desperate, with a capitol D, to find like minded women.  I had to search them out.  I joined Mothers of Preschoolers, I took my toddler to Gymboree, we joined a church and I scanned the congregation for someone with the same crazed look in her eye.  When we moved to a new town I had to start the process all over.  I volunteered in the community, I found another Gymboree, I took my little one to the library and the park and tentatively struck up conversations with other women who looked just as shy as I felt.

I have been fortunate enough to have found my village.  When one of us is in crisis the rest jump into action and take care of her.  We applaud each others successes and lift each other up in our sorrow.  It wasn’t easy to find this village, in fact it took years.  But I knew my kindred spirits were out there and I didn’t give up.  I test drove some friendships and over time discovered the ones that would work and the ones that wouldn’t.  

I promise your village is out there.  The thing about women is that they want to be needed.  They want to make casseroles and banana bread when someone has a new baby.  They want to watch their neighbor’s kids when she needs a break.  They want to spill the beans over relationships and tantrums and feel validated.  Being a part of a village gives us the sense of community that we crave.

It’s okay if the first village you try to break into doesn’t work out.  That’s the other thing about women; they can be fickle, opinionated and hard to get along with.  Just like romantic relationships; they don’t all work out and that is okay.  It’s actually a good thing.  Think about that boy you were crazy in love with at one time.  You thought you would be with him forever and then things fell apart.  You grew apart or met someone else, whatever the reason you look back on that relationship and think thank goodness that didn’t work out.  It can be like that with friendships too.  We don’t have to be best friends with every single woman we meet.

So, rather than pining away for the village of yesteryear, look around you and discover your village in the here and now.  They may be at your church, your gym, your bible study, your child’s pre-school or just down the street.  Where ever they are, they are waiting to be found.  Have you found your village?  If so, I rejoice for you.  If not, take heart, they are out there.

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Washing Machine Woes

July 24, 2014

maytag washing machine

36 – Facebook conversations about washing machine brands and how they just don’t last like they used to 

32 – washing machine reviews I read online

12 – phone calls with my repairman discussing what I should do

10 – Days my washing machine was been broken

9 – Facebook friends who made repairman recommendations

6 – loads of laundry ready and waiting for the new washer

3 – tweets with Maytag hoping they would throw me a bone

2 – loads of laundry that I did at my mother-in-law’s house

1 – underwear left until I would have to hand wash or go commando

 

 

Grow Your Google Plus Circles

June 25, 2014

To all my blogging friends…this is the last link up to grow your google plus circles for the summer!  

To my non-blogging friends.  Just ignore this and click over to yesterday’s post to watch me drop it like it’s hot.

Back to my blogging friends…I hope some of you have gotten on board the google plus train b/c this baby is picking up steam.  

 

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I’m Still A Girl At Heart

June 24, 2014

Last week was the youth mission trip for our church youth.  Since I was part of the interim youth team I helped out best I could.  This past week marked the finish line for my stint at being “in charge” of youth (I use that phrase loosely because I’m not sure I was ever really in charge or knew what I was doing).  This year the mission trip was local, helping Oklahoma residents who are still recovering from the 2013 tornadoes.  I’m so proud of what these kids were able to accomplish and even more proud of their selfless attitude.  My heart swells with pride and I have almost a parental feeling toward these teens.  

Which brings me to today.  I reluctantly admit that I’m old enough to be these teenager’s mother.  That’s a hard pill to swallow because inside I still feel like a girl at heart.  Last week it really hit home that these kids view me on the same playing field as their mom even though I have children much younger than them…maybe because I’m friends with many of their parents.

So here’s what happened.  One night of mission trip we decided to have a lip-sync contest (the idea coming from the adults, I might add).  My incredible friend Dr. Kate busted out an amazing mash-up of Sir Mix A Lot and Fresh Prince.  Sister proved that she has the moves.  I jazzercized my way through Everything Is Awesome and dropped it like it was hot.  The kids minds were blown, as in brains exploded by the sheer awesomeness we brought.  At first I thought it was our rad moves that had them in awe.  Actually, it was the fact that two grannies such as ourselves could get up in front of a group of teens and bring it.

See, they see us as moms; aka car-poolers, aka PTA volunteers, aka disciplinarians, aka fun-haters.  Because we drive our kids all over creation every day, shuttling them to and from activities, they assume it is our most favorite thing in the world to do.  Remember when your mom used to say your face would freeze like that when you had a scowl?  Well, it did.  My forehead has permanent creases that only Botox can remedy because of my “mom face”.  I’ve exchanged my shorty shorts for long shorts…not because I think they are indecent but to hide the spider veins that criss-cross my thighs and give away my age.  Perky boobs of my youth?  Those got traded in with my license to breast feed two babies.

So they see us as the responsible ones, the ones who are in charge, the ones who don’t want to get our hair wet in the pool, the ones who carry the credit cards and consider consequences.  While all that might be true it doesn’t mean that I am ready to crawl into a grave and wait to die…because they view 40 as I view 90.  And when we reveal how cool we actually are they are floored, not because of our mad skills but because their minds can’t conceive how someone who has busted out two kids can still bust a move.

Yes, I may be the responsible one, the one who gets angry at huge messes, who cooks the meals, who schedules the activities, who drops off and picks up.  But that doesn’t mean I don’t know how to have fun, how to laugh until I cry, love an impromptu dance party in the kitchen and go on dates with my husband.  I’m still a girl at heart.

Prepare to have your mind blown…

My AHA Moment

June 20, 2014

AHA Moment

A few weeks ago I participated in the Mutual of Omaha AHA Moments Tour.  What is an AHA Moment, you say?  An AHA Moment is a time when you had a moment of clarity, a light bulb goes off over your head, a defining moment where you gain real wisdom – wisdom you can use to change your life.

The Mutual of Omaha team drives all over the country pulling a super-awesome-tricked-out Airstream trailer that serves as their recording studio.  

  So, here is my AHA Moment…

Some thoughts on this process:

1.  I’m really glad I was able to participate in this because it forced me to think about what is important to me.  Talking about an AHA Moment helps you figure out what makes you tick.

2.  It was raining the day that I filmed my moment.  I couldn’t find my umbrella that morning so I used the sunshade that goes in the windshield of my car.  It sort of worked.

3.  I sound like I just ran a race.  I have no idea why I sound out of breath because prior to this I had been sitting down chatting for about 30 minutes. Apparently, I sound asthmatic when I get nervous even though I didn’t even feel nervous when I was doing this.  Who knows.

4.  How did I get to do this?  Like most of the things you see me doing…I just fall into it.  I’m sure the Mutual of Omaha AHA Moment people did a google search for bloggers in each city they went to and my name came up.

So what is your AHA Moment?  

 

Google Plus Link Up

June 4, 2014

It’s time for another Google Plus Link Up.  Read on if you are a blogger and want to grow your Google Plus circles.  If you’re not a blogger then click over to see my post for super yummy black bean & corn dip.  It will give new meaning to the purpose of fritos.

 

Are you looking to grow your circles on Google+?  Do you want better SEO and increased website exposure? This is the

place to be!  Welcome to the mommy is coocoo circles hop.



Interested in google+ training?  Look here!


*Update we’ve created a facebook group for Creative bloggers who google+.  Message me here with your email address if you would like to be in to the group.

 

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1. Please add our button to your sidebar or post!
 

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How to Grow your Blogging Community

May 16, 2014

Blogging can be a lonely activity.  Just you and your thoughts and a computer.  There are ups and downs and without a blogging community of support the ups aren’t as exciting and the downs cause you to doubt why you even are doing it in the first place.

It has taken me three years of blogging to grow my community.  One of the things I’ve learned is that you can’t force it.  You can prod it along in a direction you would like to go but you also have to allow it to happen naturally.  It’s kinda like being the new kid at school.  You look around tentatively to find kids who look nice, who have the same interests as you, who look like they won’t push you off the slide when it’s your turn.  You ask if they would like to play with you and before you know it a friendship forms.

Grow your blogging community

Today I’m blogging at a great place to grow your blogging community.  Oklahoma Women Bloggers.  If you are looking for tips to grow your blogging community then hop on over and read on.  

What do you think?  Have you found a community of support?  What are your tips on growing your community?

Grow your Circles on Google Plus Link Party

May 7, 2014
Are you looking to grow your circles on Google Plus?  Do you want better SEO and increased website exposure? This is the place to be!  Welcome to the mommy is coocoo circles hop.
 

I’ve read a lot of posts about Google Plus, what it is, what it means for bloggers, how to grow your circles on Google Plus.  I keep coming back to this: Facebook is screwing bloggers over and the next thing for bloggers is Google Plus.  As much as I hate change, I must ride this wave.  So far this Google Plus series by  Jenny Melrose is the best place to start that I have found.

Learning all you can about Google Plus and doing your best to grow your circles on Google plus go hand in  hand.  That is why I have started co-hosting the Mommy Is Coo Coo Google Plus link party once a month.

Interested in google+ training?  Amanda from Mommy Is Coo Coo can help.  Look here!

Now it’s time to party!  Follow the steps below and discover what Google Plus can do for you.

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My Writing Process Blog Tour

April 21, 2014

Today I’m participating in a writing process blog tour.  It’s kinda like Tour de France except I’m not in a bike race, or riding a bike, nor am I in France.  Really the only similarity is that they both have the word “tour” in the name.

A writing tour is when you get invited by another blogger to describe your writing style.  My bloggy friend, Brandi Barnett, asked me to participate in the writing tour.  She is a lovely Oklahoma woman who blogs about life and writing plus she was a Listen To Your Mother cast member in 2013, so you know she is legit.

On to why we’re here:

What are you working on? This.  This blog is what I’m working on.  I have all these stories in my head that I need to tell.  I need to continue the story of how we created our 2nd son via IVF, and I have a great story of the time I went to England with my grandmother.  There are all these real life stories swimming around in my head that want to be told.  Actually taking the time to put them down can be a problem.

How does my work differ from others in it’s genre?  I’ve never really thought about which category I fall into.  At first glance you could say that I’m a mommy blogger but I don’t just write about being a mommy.  Lifestyle blogger would be a better choice for what I’m doing here.  I’m resistant to being called a mommy blogger because I write about more than just parenting.  My life experiences play a large role in what I write about.  That being said my personal experience is what makes me different than other lifestyle bloggers.  I’m the only one who could tell my story because I’m the only one who has experienced it fully.  That is what makes mommy bloggers and lifestyle bloggers all unique.  We all have a unique story to tell.

Why do I write what I do?  See above.  My life is what I know best.  I’ve always thought it would be wonderful to write fiction since I love reading it but to be honest I don’t think I could.  When I think about what it would be like to write someone else’s story, describe circumstances and experiences that I don’t have first hand experience in…I can’t really wrap my head around it.  I am in awe of authors who can create complex characters, settings, worlds, languages and emotions out of nothing.  

How does your writing process work?  Most of the time I just sit down and start typing.  I just imagine that I’m telling myself a story or something funny.  You know those times when you have full conversations in the mirror with the person you wish you told off or could be brutally honest with but never would?  Or told a hilarious antidote to or practiced what you would say if you were a guest on Ellen?  (I hope I’m not the only person who does that.)  Sometimes writing is like that.  I get to have all those conversations but instead of the mirror it is right here on my blog.

There are times when I actually have to write something, not because I want to but because I’ve promised someone I would.  Those are often the hardest times to say exactly what I mean.  If I have to write about something but can’t exactly find my voice I find it easiest if I just start typing.  Eventually what needs to be said finds it’s way here.  

If I have an idea I better get some of it into the computer or I will quickly loose it.  Unfortunately, lightbulbs go off over my head when I’m away from the computer; in the shower, walking the dog, etc.  If I don’t either make a note about it or start a draft then it will get shuffled to the bottom of my to-do list.  PTA meetings, dinner, activities, family life will take precedence and soon I’ll forget all about it.  I’m pretty sure I’ve lost some brilliant posts to my own procrastination and “oh well” attitude.

This last bit wasn’t part of the blog tour interview, just my own two cents.  I find it funny that someone would think of me as a writer.  I was a average student in high school and college.  I wasn’t the dumbest kid in the class but I certainly wasn’t vying for the position of Valedictorian.  I didn’t even get to sit up at the front of the graduation line with the top 10% of the class.  I just had to sit back in alphabetical order with all the other yahoos.  Writing a book always sounded appealing but there was always someone way smarter than me and people who wrote books were smart.  I didn’t see myself as that kind of smart.  It’s amusing that this blog has evolved into something that can at times, be considered “writing”.  It just goes to show that you should always give yourself more credit than you think you deserve.

Color Me Rad Discount and Giveaway

April 18, 2014

Color Me Rad Discount

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Color Me Rad will be back in Oklahoma City on May 10th!  Better yet, I’m back with another Color Me Rad discount and giveaway!

If you don’t know about Color Me Rad by now you have been a couch potato.  These running geeks have been taking the country by storm and leaving us all in a cloud of purple dust.  What is it like to run in Color Me Rad?  It’s like the Easter Bunny ate a huge jelly bean burrito and then let out an enormous fart.  What better way to show your mom you love her by signing her up for the OKC race and running through an Easter Bunny fart with her on May 10th?

You know what is even more awesome than an Easter Bunny fart?  A 20% discount.

Here is your OKC Color Me Rad Discount: HUGSKISSESSNOT20

Here’s what you need to know about this discount:

  • This discount is only good for the Oklahoma City run on May 10th
  • You must register on the Color Me Rad website.  Use the discount HUGSKISSESSNOT20 when checking out.
  • Be prepared for your teeth to turn pink (don’t worry, it will come off when you brush)
  • Prepare to be awesome.

And now for a giveaway

I have two (2) free race entries to give to you, dear reader/runner.  These freebies are for the Oklahoma City race only.  To enter leave a comment below telling me what you love best about the Color Me Rad race.  The giveaway will be open until midnight (Central Standard Time) Friday.  The winner will be announced Saturday, April 26th.

Good luck and God speed.

Color Me Rad Discount